What is a burial vault, and do I have to use one?

As defined by the national Concrete Burial Vault Association, Outer Burial Receptacle are of two types: 1) A concrete graveliner, which is a burial receptacle placed in the ground in a cemetery. It may be sectional, dome or box formdesigned and built to support the weight of the earth and standard cemetery maintenance equipment to prevent the grave from collapsing. 2) A concrete burial vault, which is a lined and sealed burial receptacle which performs all the functions of the concrete graveliner, and in addition is designed and constructed using one or more lining and sealing materials to increase the overall tensile strength of the finished unit and to reduce the risk of intrusion of exterior elements.

Concrete burial vaults are offered in triple, double and single reinforcement and use bronze, copper and stainless steel as well as ABS and Strentex materials in their construction. New York State law does not require the use of a burial vault. However, most cemeteries require the casket to be placed in a suitable outer receptacle.

How can I arrange for my funeral ahead of time, and what are the advantages?

There are several advantages to making funeral pre-arrangements.

Making pre-arrangements allows a family time to consider options and decide what services are appropriate for them. It relieves the family members of the burden of making decisions at the time of death. It allows the family, as an act of love and consideration, to pre-pay the funeral expenses.

Funeral pre-arrangements can be made simply by calling, E-mailing or writing to us. Arrangements can be made at your home or at the Oyster Bay Funeral Home.

What should I do if a death occurs out of town, out of state or even the country?

Regardless of the day or time, or the locality where the death occurs, it is important to contact the Oyster Bay Funeral Home first. We can then direct the necessary services on your behalf. Failure to contact us first may result in duplication of services and excess cost.

What if a death occurs our of this area and I would like the Oyster Bay Funeral Home staff to oversee the arrangements at a facility other than the Oyster Bay Funeral Home?

The Oyster Bay Funeral Home staff can engage almost any funeral home in the Tri-State area to hold the funeral while still being personally and completely in charge of all arrangements.  This enables you to have you funeral service at a facility that is most convenient for your family and friends while still receiving all of our personal attention to the details of your funeral.  It is always more comfortable to deal with someone you know and trust rather than complete strangers especially under these circumstances.  In order for this to happen you must call Oyster Bay Funeral Home first.

How can I help my younger children cope with the death of a loved one?

Much has been published on the need for educating children about death. Experts in this field agree that there is every good reason to guide youngsters gently and honestly into an early understanding of this puzzling aspect of life. Please explore our "Links" section to find online resources designed to facilitate conversation between children and parents regarding these issues.

When I come to the funeral home to pay my respects, what should I say to the grieving family?

Our best advice is to be yourself. By having a public service, the family has invited you to come and share this time with them. Feel free to relate any story, memory or kind word as it relates to the deceased. The family will cherish your fond remembrances.