Thursday, February 25, 2021
In my previous post, I wanted to write about Richie as a friend and man. He was just an incredible person. I wanted to share some of his qualities today and a few more memories. He was extremely interesting, so fun to be with, curious about life and had such wonderful traits. He loved to travel and explore new places, meet new people and share ideas. We took many trips together...New Orleans, Saratoga, White Water Rafting upstate, among others. He had strong opinions but listened to yours, he was private and needed space but didn't shut you out, he loved to learn about new things and would dive in wholeheartedly, becoming an expert on something quickly. Then he would tell me all about it. He was an excellent cook. He often cooked Sunday dinners for Tom and I, a much needed activity to close out the weekend and be together. His food was amazing. We'd always have 2nds and 3rds. I even got him a cooking class because I thought he could be professional. He loved to learn and do. He knew martial arts and taught me a lot about our military and law enforcement. He was a patriot but not in that blind way that is closed off to new ideas. He was great at his career, helping countless people find their own careers. His co-workers loved him as he got to know them personally. He brought people together and introduced me to so many awesome people. We shared a deep love for the NY Football Giants and watched many games together. The 2011 Super Bowl victory was our favorite night of celebration. I can only share so much detail here, we need a few secrets. He loved his Villanova Wildcats and we'd watch them play often as he cheered them on with some fan gear. He didn't mind being the jester if people needed it...he made the best Christmas Santa. He went on adventures, seeing places like Alaska and telling me all about it. I admired his zest for life so much. He had a pioneer spirit, willing to say yes to new things, people and ideas. And if you were in his life, he made sure to learn all about you and your life. He was just one of the best people that I ever met and will ever meet. Intelligent, loving, caring, kind, the funniest man I knew, charming, fun...he had it all. He loved life and life loved him. Everyone I knew that got some time with him said he was a great guy and they wanted to know him better. His girlfriends adored him and I couldn't even get a date.
I had about 13 years with Richie as first a roommate but then quickly a brother. I took care of his beloved dog Jameson, walking him everyday after work, he was my buddy and Richie watched my rescue Arnie if I was away when Jackie and I got Arnie in 2016. Arnie doesn't like anyone, but he loved Richie immediately. He would sleep on Richie's lap. Dogs know. We had a lot in common. Two barrel-chested handsome devils that loved a good time, dogs, life, our great nation, food, libations and making people laugh. We lived together for 4 years and spent almost every night in those 4 years hanging out. I'd like to think that I had him figured out, but Richie was a complex man with so many interests and he was filled with spontaneity. He was unique and he was special. People who knew him just loved him, the true sign of greatness.
My wife told me that when we learn all the lessons we are supposed to in this life, we can be with God. Richie learned every lesson. Especially the big ones. He was kind to everyone, polite, inclusive, loving, caring and thoughtful. He loved with a huge heart and gave himself to others...putting others before himself...life's greatest lesson.
He loved Tom and Caroline and his family so much. We often spoke of them and their lives. I had a front row seat to watching the Brothers Treacy and their love for one another was just inspiring. As an only child, I just wanted to be a part of it. And they let me in with open arms. They knew each other so well it was scary. And they could push each other's buttons, it was very fun to watch. But no one came between them...and they were always there for each other. No matter where they were or had been, they always came back to each other to be together and be there for one another. They were each other's rock and I know Richie will continue to guide Tom, being his rock from above. And Richie made sure he was a great brother to Caroline as well, checking in on her and having her around to hang with us. Little did I know that Caroline might be the funniest one out of all of us and put me in my place quickly, "Richie says you're so funny...make me laugh now...c'mon" I just stumbled and ran to the bar for a drink. Richie loved his parents and I enjoyed watching him make them laugh. The love for him was so evident in their faces and I enjoyed spending time with them during Shin-Digs, Meat Carnivals or just a random weekend. His cousins loved him, too. He just made everyone in his family feel good and I was lucky enough to be part of his it for years.
Richie was so important to me that before every major decision I made in my 20s, I talked to him about it. I loved his perspective and advice. And his best advice was usually letting me figure it out for myself. But he would be the sounding board...a perfect friend because he knew that was exactly what I need with my personality. There were few things better after a long day of work than spending time talking to Richie in the apartment with a nice libation and good food. We must have watched a million Sopranos re-runs, but that was just background noise. We got each other through our 20s, everyone needs a friend to help figure those years out. Manhattan can be an unforgiving place. Riche was my friend that helped me with everything important. He understood me and I him, and that's hard to find. We only get a few of those people if we're lucky. And I was so lucky. Richie helped me on my life's path, without all those talks I wouldn't be here today...a much happier man with a career and amazing family. Many of my blessings today are a result of his advice and friendship. Once he knew Jackie was the one for me, he treated her like a sister and couldn't be happier for us. His encouragement always helped me move forward. He has always been my guardian angel, helping me along the way. I can't put into words how important he was to me over the last decade. He was at every major event in my life... groomsman at my wedding, Christening of my son, first home. His presence will be forever missed.
And while his presence is no longer in the physical form, I will have his spirit forever in my heart. I love you always Richie and will think of you everyday. I can't thank you enough for the impact that you had on my life and will continue to forever. Rest in heaven with God my brother. I look forward to seeing you again in our next chapter.